You should STOP comparing yourself
Have you seen a friend's post on Facebook recently that made you wonder "why aren't I there yet?" If you have, it’s perfectly normal. You just need to make sure that you’re not doing this every day. It’s very easy to join someone else’s journey, BUT that’s exactly it... it’s someone else’s journey! What about your journey?
This blog is about encouraging people to pursue their dreams no matter if it fits the convention or not. I love seeing my newsfeed highlight where people are in life and what brings them joy. It adds a lot of good energy to my day and I honestly don’t feel jealous of anyone, I just feel happy for them.
I think we all need to take a step back and reflect on where we are in our OWN lives. It's not use to just compare purely on age. Just because I'm 26 this year, does it mean I have to have a full time job with a mortagage and kid on the way because XYZ is? The answer is an easy NO!
I know growing up in our society, we're used to competing and comparing with our peers. Often, we hear about who's the best student and who's the worst. We play this Zero Sum Game when it doesn't have to be. This culture of being better than everyone around you can be detrimental to your personal development.
We should think more about the values and interests that need to be met for our circumstances. E.g. if you want security and comfort - it doesn't mean you need to buy a house. If this can be achieved through renting, than do so. We shouldn’t feel pressured to buy a house just because someone else bought a house.
I don’t believe most people post these 'feel good' status to make you “jealous”, it may be an unintentional side effect as a result of this social sharing phenomenon. I've seen comments from people on Facebook saying that “people only share because they are low on self esteem" etc etc and I don't think it’s always true.
I recently discussed this blog with some friends and they said that some comparison is not bad. They said it acts as a motivator or as a basis of comparison. We just need to keep this in check and not be consumed by someone else's path.
When I was young, I never had my life planned out. I didn’t know what I was doing five years ahead of time. Additionally, my Mum never really forced the issue or set deadlines. E.g. you need to have an amazing job by this age or have a car by this age. In a way, it allowed me to shape my on path.
It’s not easy when we’re bombarded with marketing by all these companies who are trying to shape out lives. We get grouped by certain characters like age and sex, all so their advertising campaigns can be targeted with an aim to "pressure" us so to buy more products!
I just don’t like it when I hear someone ask someone "what are you up to?" and if you're not up to where they are in life, they express their disappointment. Point is, you need to do what is right for you based on what your current circumstances. Don't get caught up in this fabricated path and build your own. Be confident in what you're doing and be confident in your own abilities! We're all different and destined to do different things at our own pace.
Here's our first blog post ever!! Feels like we've progressed so much even though we know there's a long way to go.